When it comes to sexual pleasure, there are plenty of products out there to help you succeed. The best sex toys for couples can help shake things up in the bedroom, so we’ve curated a list of top-notch sex toys for you and your partner to enjoy. We tapped a handful of experts to give us specific products they like and general things to look for when scoping out toys for you and your boo(s).
If your sex life has come to feel monotonous, sex toys can help you conjure more intense versions of sensations you already enjoy, and help yourself feel more closely connected to your partner. Plus, if you’re on the hunt for a great sexy gift for your partner (or even yourself), a sex toy is always a good call—trust us.
Below, we dive into what you should know before shopping for sex toys for couples, and we selected top-rated vibrators, vibrating cock rings, leather strap-on harnesses, rechargeable G-spot vibrators, clitoral vibrators, best dildos, and more. And check out these steamy audio porn options to get you in the mood!
Why use sex toys with a partner?
Lisa Finn, a sex educator at Babeland, tells SELF that there’s a widespread misconception that sex toys are a thing you use before you meet your partner—or when they’re out of town. But sex toys aren’t just for single folks.
“Sex toys allow you and your partner (or partners) to bring an exciting sensation that might not be possible with tongues, fingers, and genitals alone,” she says, adding that you can think of them as the sprinkles on top of an already delicious sundae.
“Sex toys do things humans cannot,” agrees Epiphora, a blogger who has been reviewing sex toys professionally for over a decade. “Humans don’t vibrate; humans don’t have penises made of stainless steel.” But that also doesn’t mean that toys are a replacement for, or a threat to, human relationships. Even if you use a fancy stand mixer while baking a cake, you’re still the one who baked that cake—and by the same token, the pleasure and fun of using a sex toy with a partner is often more about the partner than the toy.
Toys “can create unique opportunities for pleasure and bonding,” says Rae Chen, a writer who reviews sex toys at The Notice. This may be especially true for people who struggle to feel pleasure or achieve orgasm without toys, whether due to sensitivity issues, erectile dysfunction, a physical disability, or other conditions. Sex educator Cassandra Corrado says it’s “really freeing when you realize [sex] doesn’t have to all be about human-to-human contact—you can bring in tools to help you access pleasure more easily and efficiently.”
What should couples look for when shopping for sex toys?
“Ignore all the marketing,” Epiphora warns. “Some toys are specifically labeled ‘for couples,’ but any toy can be for couples.” It’s better to focus on finding toys that fulfill the specific purpose you want them for, whether that be clitoral stimulation during intercourse, app-enabled pleasure for long-distance couples, intense anal sensations, or something else entirely.